The impatience struggle: confessions of an Extroverted leader
Why is it so hard to be patient as a leader when things aren't moving as quickly as you'd like?
As an extrovert, you thrive on social interactions and high-energy environments, and you may become frustrated when your team isn't keeping up with your pace. Impatience is a common challenge for many extroverted leaders, myself included.
I want to share a story about my struggle with impatience. I was leading a project a few years ago and wanted results fast. So fast, in fact, that I started pushing my team harder than a spin class instructor on speed. I was like a kid on Christmas morning, except instead of presents, I wanted deliverables.
But my impatience got the best of me. My team felt undervalued and overworked like they were in a marathon and I was the coach screaming at them to keep going. And that's when I realized that impatience can be both a blessing and a curse.
As a leadership coach, I've learned a thing or two about managing impatience.
Here are some tips that can help you out:
1. TAKE A CHILL PILL: Literally. Have you tried CBD oil? Or yoga? Or maybe just a really long nap? Whatever helps you relax and focus on the big picture, do it.
2. PRACTICE ACTIVE LISTENING: It's like a Jedi mind trick. Ask open-ended questions and really listen to what your team is saying. They might have a point or two worth considering.
3. SET REALISTIC EXPECTATIONS: It's like cooking a souffle. You can't rush it or it will fall flat. So, take your time and do it right.
4. DELEGATE LIKE A BOSS: And not just because you're too busy playing Candy Crush. Trust your team to handle the tasks you assign them. You might be surprised by the results.
5. CELEBRATE THE SMALL VICTORIES: Because let's face it, who doesn't love a good party? Recognize your team's progress, even if it's not as quickly as you'd like. Take a moment to acknowledge their hard work and dedication, and celebrate small milestones along the way. Whether it's with cupcakes, high-fives, or a good old-fashioned dance party, these celebrations can help boost team morale and remind everyone of your progress toward your larger goals.
In conclusion, managing impatience takes effort and practice. But it's worth it to build stronger, more effective teams. And remember, if all else fails, just take a deep breath and scream into a pillow.
Thanks for reading, and if you're interested in learning more about how I help leaders manage their impatience and other leadership challenges, feel free to reach out!